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Blog // Thoughts
July 30, 2008

Thankfulness, Pain And Age

The good news in this weary week is that my father is recovering in hospital and will be released soon. His care has been excellent at every level and a credit to the local health authorities. We greatly appreciate everyone’s thoughts and prayers at this time. The non-news is that it has been a tough […]

The good news in this weary week is that my father is recovering in hospital and will be released soon. His care has been excellent at every level and a credit to the local health authorities. We greatly appreciate everyone’s thoughts and prayers at this time.

The non-news is that it has been a tough few weeks. Fragile, raw and diminished are words that come to mind trying to describe how I feel right now. But, of all them, helpless is probably the most apposite. It’s hard to shake off the “shoulds.” I should be more caring, helpful, selfless, sensitive, compassionate, prayerful, calm – but I’m not.

Still, outside it is a sunny winter’s day, rest and “normality” is in sight and we will be home by the weekend. There are a lot of reasons to be hopeful and thankful.

Responses
Steve 14 years ago

Glad to hear the good news. Praying for restoration. When we’re tried is when the enemy’s wiles work on us hardest – so don’t be beating yourself up. I know you see past that cognitively, but being emotionally drained, it’s to get past mentally. Hang on to those reasons for hope and thankfulness.

Toni 14 years ago

Often, for me the ‘shoulds’ are dealt with best by just simply getting in there and doing whatever seems right at the time, rather than standing back and thinking about it. Maybe I’m just a simple, uncomplicated kind of guy, and it’s easy for me.

Seeing those you love suffering IS hard though – you feel you *should* be able to help, bring comfort, relief, peace, ease their pain. Often though, the people actually doing the suffering are grateful for us to be around them, still showing that we love and care for them.

Take care, Fern.

Fernando Gros 14 years ago

Steve – You are right and I feel tired in a way I haven’t felt in years.

Toni – Yes, the best thing to do is to act in sensible ways. Helping with the most everyday things, like shopping, cooking and cleaning is not that hard, feels normal and does a lot to restore.

Overall, I tired but incredibly thankful that this happened just before we were due to fly and not after. My parents feel the same thing.

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