Comments on: When Praising Your Kids Can Be Harmful http://fernandogros.com/?p=837 Sound, Image, Faith and Culture Mon, 06 Sep 2010 03:02:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Fernando Gros http://fernandogros.com/?p=837&cpage=1#comment-77930 Fernando Gros Sun, 04 Mar 2007 14:38:59 +0000 http://fernandogros.com/?p=837#comment-77930 Toni it is perhaps telling that as I've discussed this with some fellow parents, it's been apparent that many praise their kids attributes rather than effort (almost to the exclusion of it). I've also become aware that my daughter has picked up in the playground the phrase "so easy" to describe things she does well. This week I found myself having the first serious chat with her (shes five) about how Papa's guitar playing is not at all easy... Toni it is perhaps telling that as I’ve discussed this with some fellow parents, it’s been apparent that many praise their kids attributes rather than effort (almost to the exclusion of it).

I’ve also become aware that my daughter has picked up in the playground the phrase “so easy” to describe things she does well. This week I found myself having the first serious chat with her (shes five) about how Papa’s guitar playing is not at all easy…

]]> By: Toni http://fernandogros.com/?p=837&cpage=1#comment-76052 Toni Tue, 20 Feb 2007 18:11:28 +0000 http://fernandogros.com/?p=837#comment-76052 This is a good formal recognition of the self evident. That we (we including our children) need to strive and be encouraged in that striving to achieve, rather than just simply to be. It is simply so much more helpful to be both praised for what we've done and also be informed of how our failures can be turned around than to simply be told how wonderful we are. I wonder if this is a facet of the playstation/TV generation. They know they're intelligent, so there's no need to actually *try* in practical areas. This is a good formal recognition of the self evident. That we (we including our children) need to strive and be encouraged in that striving to achieve, rather than just simply to be. It is simply so much more helpful to be both praised for what we’ve done and also be informed of how our failures can be turned around than to simply be told how wonderful we are.

I wonder if this is a facet of the playstation/TV generation. They know they’re intelligent, so there’s no need to actually *try* in practical areas.

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